Make the Sandwich

I don’t like sharing and I don’t think that another woman would want to share me but I’m interested in your thoughts here:

Can you cook?

I don’t mean just some ol hamburger helper, canned vegetables and boxed something else. Definitely not no “Slap it together with some water & shit in about 15 minutes and expect to be congratulated” type cookin…

I mean can you really throw down? Can you whip up a meal in under an hour that will make ya partner’s feet curl?

If you can then half the battle is won.

As a man, I don’t understand how these ladies be trying to lock a brotha down and ain’t never said let me invite him over for a home cooked meal. That is just plain crazy.

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Nervous writes in:

Man I’m excited and a little nervous. My friend that I known for over 10 years just gave me his grandmas engagement ring to get sized and asked me to be his wife.

I’m nervous because we always had the seinfield/elaine type of relationship. Well we both had a lot of growin up to do. I just don’t want that deep friendship to change. That’s why I’m a liittle nervous about it.

But damn. Its one helluva bling bling ring though.

He told about the ring numerous times, and how he kept special care of it. But I think he feels the same way I do. Scared it will ruin the friendship. Now I’m about to be 32 and he is 33 so I guess we are reaching the turning point.

We both had baby mama and dady drama in our lives. Thinking we are suppose to sacrifice who we really were. Then we both learned how stupid that was. Sigh.

Signed,
Nervous

First of all congrats, for a guy to give you a family heirloom shows that you mean a lot to him. 10 years is a long time to know someone.

The Seinfeld/Elaine dynamic is a little weird. You guys have probably been intimate but have not been attached seriously. Well thats how Elaine and Seinfeld were I think…

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Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Something about being in someone’s face all the time or them being around you all the time… it is way too easy to get tired of that person or vice versa. I like space or I have grown to like space in the last 2 years or so. I don’t love it but I like it. I like to think & work and not have to worry if I’m ignoring the person that is around me. When I want them around, I want them around. Period.

I always find it over-exciting not seeing someone for like 1-2 weeks and then you get to see that person and you feel all this anticipation.

It damn near drives me crazy.

When you on top (read, smothering) of someone all the time its not always good. It can be later on in the situation but at first its easy to get burnt out.

Ideally you want the other person to miss you. It creates desire. If it doesn’t, then that person probably isn’t that into you.

Just a thought I thought I’d share.