Comments on: Lovin’ then leavin http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm A discussion about the ins & outs of making relationships work and some insight on why they don't... Tue, 06 Jan 2009 14:26:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 By: SugarSpice http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm#comment-16 SugarSpice Mon, 10 Sep 2007 03:43:48 +0000 http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm#comment-16 In regard to the above response to the posted question, I believe men sometimes find it all too easy to just bow out of situations such as this. I'm not saying that all the reasons that were given are not valid ones, however, with men sometimes they don't seem to even want to stick around long enough to lay out reasons as to why a potential situation may not work out. Maybe if more men explained why they don't want to be involved with a particular female, then maybe women wouldn't constantly be left guessing, or dangling by a string of doubt. If a guy feels that, hey, yeah, we had fun but things are moving to fast or he's not ready for a relationship, or he's just plain not feeling this person in that way, then damnit he should say so. This "method" of communicating is the most simple, and easy way to prevent what I like to call wasting time. In regard to the above response to the posted question, I believe men sometimes find it all too easy to just bow out of situations such as this. I’m not saying that all the reasons that were given are not valid ones, however, with men sometimes they don’t seem to even want to stick around long enough to lay out reasons as to why a potential situation may not work out. Maybe if more men explained why they don’t want to be involved with a particular female, then maybe women wouldn’t constantly be left guessing, or dangling by a string of doubt. If a guy feels that, hey, yeah, we had fun but things are moving to fast or he’s not ready for a relationship, or he’s just plain not feeling this person in that way, then damnit he should say so. This “method” of communicating is the most simple, and easy way to prevent what I like to call wasting time.

]]> By: Doxa http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm#comment-20 Doxa Sun, 07 Oct 2007 18:31:36 +0000 http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm#comment-20 The other thing is, speaking woman to woman, we sometimes train or condition men to give us less. What I mean is if we accept him being late all the time, why should he get there on time? Another example, I knew a young lady who LOVED this guy. Everyone around her knkow and told her he was no good but yet she stayed with him. She eventually became pregnant. She stayed with him, though she at this point KNEW he was cheating. She went to a check up and found out the he'd given her an STD. She, through her actions, or lack there of, trained him to believe his behavior was okay. I say all that to say this. Not all men are the relationship/ marring type. Not everyone is supposed to be in your life forever. That's why we, in general, should take our time such that we come out of the situation better informed and less damaged. The other thing is, speaking woman to woman, we sometimes train or condition men to give us less.

What I mean is if we accept him being late all the time, why should he get there on time?

Another example, I knew a young lady who LOVED this guy. Everyone around her knkow and told her he was no good but yet she stayed with him. She eventually became pregnant. She stayed with him, though she at this point KNEW he was cheating. She went to a check up and found out the he’d given her an STD.

She, through her actions, or lack there of, trained him to believe his behavior was okay.

I say all that to say this. Not all men are the relationship/ marring type. Not everyone is supposed to be in your life forever. That’s why we, in general, should take our time such that we come out of the situation better informed and less damaged.

]]> By: Cleo http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm#comment-21 Cleo Thu, 11 Oct 2007 23:22:50 +0000 http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm#comment-21 Some times a man does realize that he is in over his head, maybe the woman is too grown up for him, and eventually he would have to rise to the occassion to maintain, and sometimes walking away is much easier than learning to function in a relationship that maybe beyond his maturity growth. Some times a man does realize that he is in over his head, maybe the woman is too grown up for him, and eventually he would have to rise to the occassion to maintain, and sometimes walking away is much easier than learning to function in a relationship that maybe beyond his maturity growth.

]]> By: T http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm#comment-23 T Tue, 16 Oct 2007 04:19:53 +0000 http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm#comment-23 so.... have u ever done this to anyone and if so....WHAT WAS UR REASON? WAS IT ALL OF THE ABOVE? (your reasons sound a little personal care to elaborate?) so…. have u ever done this to anyone and if so….WHAT WAS UR REASON? WAS IT ALL OF THE ABOVE? (your reasons sound a little personal care to elaborate?)

]]> By: CasuAL http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm#comment-25 CasuAL Tue, 16 Oct 2007 14:11:20 +0000 http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm#comment-25 Not to put my own personal biz out there but I have experienced one or more of these reasons to not get too deep with someone. Its just gets harder and harder, because as you get older you get more responsible (or you should get more responsible)... and you don't want to really hurt anyone for selfish reasons. So as of late, I have been less inclined to get involved with someone on any level if I know I got: A: Other things going on, or B: Someone else in my life. Not to put my own personal biz out there but I have experienced one or more of these reasons to not get too deep with someone.

Its just gets harder and harder, because as you get older you get more responsible (or you should get more responsible)… and you don’t want to really hurt anyone for selfish reasons.

So as of late, I have been less inclined to get involved with someone on any level if I know I got:

A: Other things going on, or
B: Someone else in my life.

]]> By: Doxa http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm#comment-26 Doxa Sun, 21 Oct 2007 00:37:56 +0000 http://www.makethesandwich.com/differences/lovin-then-leavin.htm#comment-26 I think CasuAL makes a decent point. If you know you haven't got the time, energy or desire to become deeply involved don't. Don't look for people that are interested in something serious. If you are only in the market for a good time then just have a good time responsibly. I think CasuAL makes a decent point. If you know you haven’t got the time, energy or desire to become deeply involved don’t. Don’t look for people that are interested in something serious. If you are only in the market for a good time then just have a good time responsibly.

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