Comments on: No BIG deal. http://www.makethesandwich.com/play-your-position/no-big-deal.htm A discussion about the ins & outs of making relationships work and some insight on why they don't... Fri, 21 Nov 2008 16:53:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 By: hershey http://www.makethesandwich.com/play-your-position/no-big-deal.htm#comment-73 hershey Sat, 19 Jul 2008 01:41:01 +0000 http://www.makethesandwich.com/play-your-position/no-big-deal.htm#comment-73 I believe the more important thing is to always remember how did this person first caught your sight, and then your heart. The person that you thought he/she is. Keeping that in mind, being able to communicate is the way to keep that belief real and strong. When he/she says "it's no big deal", you should tell him/her why you think "it's not a small deal". When he/she says "you should be able to get groceries on the way back home from work", you should tell her what you have experienced at work that day, and you would be exhausted by then. To me, love is like a trade, not financially, but emotionally and mentally. The trade loses value when there is no more "activities", eventually the value will go down to zero. I believe the more important thing is to always remember how did this person first caught your sight, and then your heart. The person that you thought he/she is. Keeping that in mind, being able to communicate is the way to keep that belief real and strong. When he/she says “it’s no big deal”, you should tell him/her why you think “it’s not a small deal”. When he/she says “you should be able to get groceries on the way back home from work”, you should tell her what you have experienced at work that day, and you would be exhausted by then. To me, love is like a trade, not financially, but emotionally and mentally. The trade loses value when there is no more “activities”, eventually the value will go down to zero.

]]> By: Doxa http://www.makethesandwich.com/play-your-position/no-big-deal.htm#comment-527 Doxa Sat, 13 Sep 2008 23:44:46 +0000 http://www.makethesandwich.com/play-your-position/no-big-deal.htm#comment-527 I think that you have to feel comfortable voicing your needs and wishes. Sometimes people let things slide for the sake of love. Don't get me wrong, I don't think a person should nag their mate, because whether you ask a person once or fifty times they already know whether or they are willing to do the task after the initial request. I would just say, don't let things fester. Voice your views, wants and needs so that your partner knows whether or not it's a BIG deal. I think that you have to feel comfortable voicing your needs and wishes. Sometimes people let things slide for the sake of love. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think a person should nag their mate, because whether you ask a person once or fifty times they already know whether or they are willing to do the task after the initial request.

I would just say, don’t let things fester. Voice your views, wants and needs so that your partner knows whether or not it’s a BIG deal.

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